Do You Really Not Have Enough Time In Your Day?

How many articles have you read looking for advice on how to gain more time in your day? If you're like me, your lifestyle is not going to fit in to the "One Size Fits All" kind of advice. Come see what just may fit YOUR schedule and YOUR needs.

If You’re on Welfare, Put the Blahniks Down!

Should you be purchasing expensive brand name labels, have the latest car, going to high end restaurants all while receiving welfare to help you make ends meet?

All Kids Need To Be Taught Adulting Skills in School

Are young people today learning the skills that will allow them to be competent, responsible, independent adults? The school systems, both public and private should be teaching life skills right along with algebra and chemistry. Come read about it in my latest article and let me know your thoughts.

Sorry? NO MORE… Sorry!

Do you apologize for things you don't need to apologize for? Is this an issue mostly among women? Stop apologizing and start building your confidence instead.

You + More You = Happiness

What do YOU need to be truly happy? Being selfish is NOT selfish.

Quit Bellyaching Over Peter Rabbit!

Stop complaining about Peter Rabbit and take some responsibility as the parent.

Dear Future Daughter In Laws – My Sons Know About Your Period

An Open Letter to My Son's future wives. These men are quite educated on the topic of a woman's period and what their role is during this time. Hold them to it.

My DNA Reveal and Nina Simone!

When I began writing this post, the first thing that rammed itself straight away in to my mind was Nina Simone's song "Feeling Good". The lyrics related to the hook especially. For those of you that don't know Nina Simone's original "Feeling Good", you may have heard Michael Buble's rendition. Whether you favor one over…

Who’s My Daddy? – Ancestry DNA Test

A coin toss between two men and is Ancestry here to help me find out?

My Sisters Eulogy… A Celebration of Her! Unconventional at its Finest!

My heartfelt eulogy given at my sisters life celebration.

Just a Little Jealous of the Kids!

I had a sibling but lived as an only child. I sometimes yearn for the same type of relationship my kids have.

The Sound of Silence

We can all agree that radio, television, children, and gatherings are all producers of sound, both pleasant and unpleasant... of course depending on the receiver. Your favorite song. A funny sitcom. Laughter from your little ones. Great conversation with family and friends. All positive things for sure, and I thankfully find myself being a willing receiver to…

#MeToo – Women Need To Stand Together

TRIGGER WARNING This article contains information about sexual assault which may be triggering to survivors. Donna Karen and Eddie Bernice Johnson have something in common. Well known? Sure. Women? Obviously. But as of late they have shown themselves to be enablers. Enablers to a behavior that goes against humanity and morality. To a behavior so despicable…

Promote Kindness – A Mother’s Story!

Unfortunately there have been too many articles exposing the experience of women, of moms that have been encountering judgement and criticism from.... OTHER MOMS! This is truly disappointing given that we live in a time where we have more access to one another and hence having a wonderful opportunity to becoming part of a large…

The Fear Factor

Take fear and still accomplish your dream.

Shunning is Abusive! End of Conversation!

If you are a parent, most surely you have used the "Time Out" method to discipline your child for unacceptable behavior. A moment for the child to "reflect", if that's even possible for a child to do on what he or she did wrong. The child is set aside, as the world around them either…

I was a Jehovah’s Witness – No Blood Transfusion My Ass

What would you do to save your child's life? Anything? Everything? As parents, it is not only our job to protect our young, but love moves us to do so innately. Would you sacrifice your child like the biblical Abraham was willing to do? Would you sacrifice your son for strangers like the Christian god…

Mourn Me and Move On

"My mother has been following me". If I leave that comment "as is", it allows you to fabricate your own assumption as to it's meaning. Is my mother a psycho sneaking about, hiding among the dark corners that parallel my life?  Is she shadowing my every move? Is she the quintessential hovering parent? Keep in mind, the following detail is…

Angry Women Are NOT Feminists!

FEMINISM! FUCK! Unfortunately, this word has become scary to many folks today. And I don't mean the word FUCK. Feminism is no longer a representation of the movement of days past. Although if you  look up the word in the dictionary, it will still claim to mean the advocacy of women's rights on the basis…

“I Had Strings, But Now I’m Free” – Ultron

When was the last time you felt trapped? Were you feeling seized due to a situation beyond your control or was it self-inflicted? I invite you to pause here for just a moment to think about this thoroughly and honestly. I'm trusting you recalled the moment and you clearly remember what it felt like. Let me begin…

My Name is NOT Mommy!

A weekend conversation between myself and my seven year old son. A conversation every parent should have with their child. ********************************** Mom! Mama! Mommy! Mother! Ma! ENOUGH!!! Darling...my sweet little boy...I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to yell. But all day you've been asking me for stuff. Stuff that YOU want. Stuff that YOU like.…

Submissive Wife, Submissive Life

Picture a beautiful Saturday afternoon. My two youngest boys, seven and four, are sitting quietly in the living room watching Teen Titans Go after inhaling their PB&J's. I decide to use the moment to do some clean up in the front yard. Before stepping outside, I tell the seven-year old... "C...I'll be in the front…

“D” for Divorce – Scarlet Letter No More!

If at first you don't succeed, try, try, try again. If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. It's never too late. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. Never give in and never give up. Just a few uplifting quotes that totally did NOT help me when I was going through a divorce.…

Do You Remember Picture Day?

Picture Day!!! Do you remember that day as a kid or only now as a parent? What is it about this day that gets a person all out of sorts. I remember the days leading up to picture day as a kid in elementary school. Picking out the right outfit while trying to convince my mother…

Don’t Oppress the Oppressed

"I don't know what I don't know" and "there are things that I know that I don't know" take much humility to admit. Don't worry, my claim of humility is not a self-righteous declaration but a true personal daily effort. It's not easy to admit you don't know something for fear of looking uneducated on…

Back To School – You’ve Been Warned

Admit it...you hate homework as much if not more than your kids do.

No More Pets Please

I commence the following diatribe as a way to reach out to the many out there that may be feeling the same way, but are too afraid to speak up, too afraid to admit this out loud, too afraid of being judged. We live in a society that claims freedom of speech. The beauty of speaking…

Learn A Thing Or Two From The Tourist

If you're a New Yorker like myself, or really any city dweller will do, you'll notice that your friendly neighborhood tourists all have something in common. Other than cladding themselves in the usual fanny pack, sun visor and DSLR camera, they seem to have a propensity to come to a full stop and..well, LOOK UP. They look…

At 58 Madonna Is Still My Material Girl

Have you ever experienced a moment that slapped you straight in to reality? A moment of self-awareness so sudden that you didn't realize you had even stopped breathing? A jaw-dropping run-of-the-mill fact that sent you in to momentary denial? I'm sure you have quite the story to tell and I would love to hear all…

It’s Getting Loud Up Here In My Head!

My thoughts are like unplanned and uninvited guests.  They usually pop in when I'm on my own during a relaxing drive. For some people it's a stroll through the park as they contemplate the sights and sounds of nature. For others it may be a long soak in the tub as the lit wick of…

My Son’s Open-Heart Surgical Scar Reminds Me Of…

Would you say that you are one of the many people today that lean heavily on the statement... "everything happens for a reason", especially after an emotional event? Attaching a meaning to a traumatic moment seems to help many cope with the shock that trickles in quickly thereafter. Although I could empathize with this very…

I Questioned my fear… and I learned from it

I learned to question what I was fearing and in the process I found freedom.

The Power of a Loving Alchemist

Her heart was repeatedly shattered. Pieces of it scattered. Never to be mended, forever fractured. Fragments of her incense never to be found. Some in the attics of people's past, locked and bound. A wilting beat, a dying drum…a fading sound.   An alchemist stepped into her world, daggers hurled. Her sharp edges a warning,…

The Happy Pill

He chooses a pill to fill him with the joy that was lost so long ago. When she left. She left him sad. She left because he was already sad. Well, she didn't necessarily leave. More like escaped. And now he too needs to escape the memory of her. He falsely remembers being happy. Happy…

I’m No Makeup Artist but I Do Know Art When I See It

I love the artistic world and Big O and I do our best to immerse ourselves and the kids in it. I love expressing myself through my writing and painting. Big O also writes and plays the violin and is now teaching himself the guitar (electrical guitar and it’s driving me crazy). The 18-year-old developed…

“It’s The Thought That Counts” NEEDS ACTUAL THOUGHT

We’ve heard the saying…. "There is more joy in giving than in receiving". If you’re a kid (or when you yourself were a kid) this is utter nonsense, admit it. As adults though, well…let’s all agree that this is only partially true. Sure, we enjoy watching our children light up and do their happy dance…

Is Doing Nothing a Good Use of Your Time?

Sometimes doing nothing is exactly what we should be doing

Fear Life… Not GOD

When we’re kids, the norm is to be taught by our parents with regards to what’s right and wrong. Along with that, teachers seem to also have a hand in how our psyche evolves toward these two elements given how much time we spend under their influence. I'm no doctor, but I was definitely a…

WTF! A Deeper Look

I bet you a weekend with all three of my kids that you already know what she’s referring to without even peeking at the link included below. If you guessed the Me-ternity debacle, then get ready because my kids are a handful.

Trapped in the Quicksand of Love

Here's something a bit different. Actually, very different. I've been challenging my writing with stabs at... Poetry! I sometimes need to step out of my comfort zone, away from my safety net and this definitely makes me feel both vulnerable and somewhat uncomfortable. I'll be posting them up regularly. Let me know your thoughts. Be…

Quit Claiming That Women Are Weak!

It was nine in the morning, a Monday, after a long weekend and it felt as if I didn't just have three days off. Even worse... I had cramps. If you're a woman, you'll most likely know the kind of cramp that not only sends sharp lingering pain into your lower abdomen, but resonates all the way…

A 40-Somethings “AHA!” Weekend Away

Many times we coast through life blinded to the lessons waiting at the end of each moment. Despite being slighted, they simmer there for as long as it takes us to collect them for later consumption. And it's a good thing, since allowing a lesson to shift our thoughts for personal growth is only possible…

Surprise, Surprise, I Didn’t See THAT Coming!

Things have been hectic lately. Between work, home renovations, the kids and all that they require to survive and thrive, daily chores, spending time with Big O (that's my husband for those that don't know) and just trying to be me, life has been a whirlwind of just....stuff....lots of stuff to do. It's been like…

Things I Wish I’d Done Differently in HS

When asked what age they'd like to go back to, I have found that most folks, if given the chance, would sprint right back to their high school years. This group of people would most definitely NOT include me. Why? Well, for starters you're expected to behave like an adult without any of the freedoms…

I Don’t Want to Play with the Kids Today.

I'm not your typical mom. At least I don't think I am. Although I love reading about other bloggers discuss the issues and nuances we all share as moms, I personally don't feel compelled to always write about my kids. It bores me... or maybe I think it bores other people... or maybe it's a little…

The Not So Good Ol’ Days

My eighteen year old son called asking if I'd allow him to go out to eat with his friends tonight. He reassured me that all chores were completed. It was 6:00 pm, I'm on the bus on my way home from work, halfway through a 1.5 hour commute and still needed to pick up his…

Human”Kind”

I freed my mind. I made myself strong. A decision many feel is wrong. Electing my own path. Despite the daggers and wrath. All because I did the math. Wrong with what though? Not putting their leaders on a throne, or not feeling they've been bestowed? To not serve your way or not regret? Or…

Clean Slate or Closure…Choose Wisely!

This year has been quite an interesting one. My only post of any significance before this one was a quick overview on how 2015 "Hulked" in strong, kicking my ass. At that point I believed, erroneously it seems, that I had met the peak of that figurative roller-coaster and was coming down back to the platform…

Have Anniversary… Will Celebrate

What causes you to celebrate? Is it getting that beautiful diamond ring from your boyfriend? Or maybe the offer of that dream job? Did you see that highly anticipated plus sign on your pregnancy test after two years of trying? Or receiving the finalized divorce papers from the lawyer? Hey! Don't judge. Reasons to celebrate come…

SISTERHOOD OF THE WORLD BLOGGERS

These first three months of 2015 was a difficult one for my blogging, more like I lost my mojo, my inspiration, my desire to even open my brand new touch screen laptop, of which by the way I got an awesome deal for. Thankfully I'm back with happy mojo in tow. Last week I decided…

2015 Kicked My Ass

Its been practically 3 months since I've figuratively put pencil to paper. That wasnt my plan; so far from my original plan. So what happened to my so-called plan? I clearly remember December of 2014. At this very moment it seems like so long ago. I was in the middle of finishing up a hysterical post…

Hero Brian Took My Son’s F-Bomb Virginity

Parenting is capital "D" difficult. Can I get an "Aaa-men!". Restraint is difficult. Showing restraint as a parent is an elevated level of difficult. (I'm feeling every parent reader nodding enthusiastically in camaraderie agreement). So, when I hear and read about how evil video games are or how children shouldn't watch television, I retaliate with…

FunnyBlogFriday Raffle Winner!

Have you ever noticed that the longer you stare at a written word, the more "wrong" it looks? Well, that's my problem right now with the word "winner". Trying to celebrate my first ever winner by creating this post, the more I'm plagued by this word. So as to end my misery, here goes my announcement:…

Spilling Secrets Over Drinks – A Family Reunion

Happy Friday everyone! I'm part of a Blog Hop today. It's like bar hopping, only better. So grab a drink and enjoy the first ever Funny Blog Friday #FBF event.  It's a Blog Hop Party filled with funny posts and giveaway raffles. Drum roll please......today I’m giving away a FREE YOUTH XL (size 18/20) DEREK JETER REPLICA JERSEY to the…

NO! It’s Not Okay!

My son was growing beautifully, safely tucked away in the depths of my womb. Well, safely is probably not the most accurate word to use. At around my sixth month of pregnancy, the sonogram technician detected something abnormal. Now that's a word that no expecting parent ever wants to hear. Needless to say, after sending…

Kim Kardashian and Her Stupid Earrings

Standing in the shower, my eyes closed feeling the water hit my back, listening as the drops meet the porcelain floor, my mind starts to wander. A moment of tranquility is quickly overtaken by moments of chaos thinking about my eternal To Do list. I can't believe I have one kid starting his senior year in high school and…

Who Cares What Size Your Butt Is

Let me just say this...I'm Hispanic and I don't have a big butt. My boobs are not that much to write home about either. There...I said it. I almost feel like I have to belong to a support group. Why? Because my culture as in many others thrive on this look. And if you belong…

Marvel and DC Have Nothing On This SuperHero!

What crosses your mind when you see a fire hydrant? Some folks don't even give these a second thought. Others are bothered by it when the only parking spot available is, of course, a foot too close to it. Maybe the image of a pissing dog comes to mind. While most of the female population…

From Five Months To Eleven Years To…

I glanced and contemplated a man, you were young and prideful but caught my eye. I kept pulling my thoughts away,for you seemed less reliable and more of a wise guy.   You couldn't possibly be all that I dreamed of,all that I needed and all that I waited for.You insisted that you were the…

Clash of the Titans (when this couple butt-heads on practically everything)

For anyone that has had the privilege of watching this movie, either the original or the remake, (stay far away from the sequel “Wrath…”), you’ll recall that the male character, Perseus, exuded the muscle and strength to fight for the damsel in distress, Andromeda. He encountered witches, two-headed dogs, chopped off the head of Medusa…

My Paradise In the Hood

I was only ten years old when I boldly told my poor mother that I'm leaving this horrible place and never coming back. In retrospect,  I'm sure not an easy thing for my poor mother to hear coming from her favorite (sorry sis) daughter. She  fought hard to make things better for me but despite…

#4StressfulWeeks – Week 3

Wouldn't you agree that sometimes it's the little things that make the most impact? When it comes to that theory in the realm of happiness; a single flower from a partner, a tight hug from a parent, a pasta picture frame from your pre-schooler, or a letter received in the mail from a friend. These or similar…

Calling vs. Texting – The 5th Round KO (Writing 101)

Writing 101 Day Seven The world is our arena. All spectators are present. Young and old. Men and women. True hard-core fans. Each one excited to support its chosen team. Differences dividing couples and causing rifts between families. A source of tension amongst friends. Anxieties increase due to internal conflict. The contenders?  In one corner…

A Little Sunshine Goes a Long Way

I am never at a loss for words, (the concept is just utterly dreadful), but Mara Eastern has definitely found a way to make me blush and stutter looking for the right words of appreciation for this Sunshine blogger award. Being a newbie blogger, this is huge for me. Huge! I don't care what others…

A Killer in Sheeps Clothing – (Writing 101)

Writing 101 - Day Four I’m not that old. I don't think i am. No, no, I'm not... Well...by my standards I’m not. (To my grand-niece: this is not old!!!). But I have observed many things in life. I have seen the world transition in my 40 years. Sometimes toward great progress and sometimes it…

A View Unlike Any Other – (Writing 101)

Writing 101 - Day Two It’s a view unlike any other. A non-traditional scene. But quite the scene nonetheless. A special place not just for the body, but one for the mind and soul. Others escape to the sounds of the ocean or to the soft touch of the sand on their toes. Many find…

Time Is Against Us – (Writing 101)

Writing 101 - Day One It’s a scary moment for most of us. It’s a haunting feeling. Time is against us. We think we’re okay with it, but it’s just a lie we tell ourselves in order to survive. I look down as my fingers tap against the keyboard, I stare at them as they translate…

#4StressfulWeeks – A Blogging Series – Week 2

2nd Installment of #4StressfulWeeks What did you think? An easier week? Not a chance. Not for me, and I can probably bet my first-born son that it wasn't an easy one for you either. Geez, just trying to get to the second week of this series was like going through the Tough Mudder challenge. That…

The Game of Chicken in a Bathroom Stall

I’m not a daredevil by nature. I refused to ever take a dare from other kids when I was younger. I always opted for Truth when playing Truth or Dare. Only once did I fall prey to the peer pressure of the constant bantering to take the Dare on this game and ended up, red-faced,…

#4StressfulWeeks – A Blogging Series

#4StressfulWeeks. A blogging series.  ****************************** Have you seen the new social network craze of #100happydays? A noble movement, to say the least, to encourage everyone to find daily happiness in the small things in life and then post up a daily picture recording and sharing it with the world. Beautiful isn't it? Well, THIS isn't THAT!…

Me, Myself & I – All Guilty!

Daily Prompt asked:  What’s the one guilty pleasure you have that’s so good, you no longer feel guilty about it? Once I’m done Go watch some TV Play with your brother Why don’t you go read a book I think you need a nap Here’s some paper and glue, go make something If you don’t…

Knock That “Prince” Off His Horse

Shaking my head, practically causing whiplash, I listened in shock. What? She did what? For how long? How does that even happen? Who initiated that? Way too many questions I guess for the messenger. They gave me that “Don’t Shoot” kind of look. Putting up their hands in a protective stance against my machine gun…

A Time Machine For a Cup of Coffee

"Try some coffee" she ordered. I was ten. I was from a Puerto Rican household. Kids were allowed to drink coffee. With cheese. Yes, with cheese, IN the coffee. It was a thing. I tried the coffee. Didn't like it. I can still remember the bitter taste. She had hers in a dainty Victorian cup and…

Those Dandelions Set Me Straight!

Where I’m at and what I was doing there really doesn't matter. What matters is that I was sitting, feeling the warmth of the sun reflecting in from the window, not even paying attention to what’s going on outside. The view glimmered in the sun and caught the corner of my eye. I turn to…

National Poetry Writing Month – Tautogram – Challenge

This is my poem for this months Challenge. This style is called Tautogram. Hope you enjoy and understand my story. ******************************************* Tantrums, tasks, troubles. The toddler twists, turns, tumbles. Tula too tired to try, the toddler too testy to tame. Tribulation through these tiny, tiny tirades. Toiling thoughts. Tom's toxic tongue torpedoes teasing toward tearful tot. Terrible…

What the YOLO??!!

You know that horrid nightmare some of us had as kids that just followed us right in to adulthood? Picture this; you're in a room filled with people. Seems normal. Then, without forewarning they all start to walk away. Although you are not sure why, you are compelled to follow the crowd; innocent enough seeing…

I Don’t Care if she’s a Feminist! Don’t Forget to be a Gentleman!

True Story - I'm 26 years old, 8 months pregnant expecting my first child. I'm commuting back and forth to Manhattan via the A train from Queens. At this stage of my pregnancy I'm getting out of work just a tad earlier to avoid the evening rush back home. The August heat makes waiting on…

Life 360 – (50 Word Writing Challenge)

She takes her first breath, a joyful cry! A bubbly crawler. Cheerleader, ice skater, gymnast tumbler. The apple of her Daddy's eye. Her love turns to another. A diamond ring and a forever kiss. Time, children, wisdom and graying hair. A reflection back.... She smiles... sighs… Taking her last breath. ________________________________ This definitely wasn't easy,…

My IVF Challenge: Mostly Physical, Hardly Emotional!

Challenge can mean many things. As a verb, it can mean to confront something, face up to it. It can mean a dare, or to question. As a noun, it can mean a test, or experiment. Which of these can I relate to the most? ALL. I don’t pretend to know how other women have…

Déjà vu

Being a mom to a 16-year-old comes with certain perks. Stop pursing your lips, rolling your eyes or shaking your head in utter disagreement. I know you think I'm crazy. Just give me a moment to explain. Parenting a teen boy has its continuous challenges, sure, he was my "need to read every book and…

About Me

I'm not pretending to know it all. I'm not a psychologist,  therapist or life coach. It's just me. A married woman originally from the Bronx and transplanted to Central New Jersey, raising 3 boys and dealing with an angst ridden dog. A 40-something woman with baggage and issues, with both happy and sad moments. A…