Do You Really Not Have Enough Time In Your Day?

How many articles have you read looking for advice on how to gain more time in your day? If you're like me, your lifestyle is not going to fit in to the "One Size Fits All" kind of advice. Come see what just may fit YOUR schedule and YOUR needs.

Sorry? NO MORE… Sorry!

Do you apologize for things you don't need to apologize for? Is this an issue mostly among women? Stop apologizing and start building your confidence instead.

Dear Future Daughter In Laws – My Sons Know About Your Period

An Open Letter to My Son's future wives. These men are quite educated on the topic of a woman's period and what their role is during this time. Hold them to it.

The Sound of Silence

We can all agree that radio, television, children, and gatherings are all producers of sound, both pleasant and unpleasant... of course depending on the receiver. Your favorite song. A funny sitcom. Laughter from your little ones. Great conversation with family and friends. All positive things for sure, and I thankfully find myself being a willing receiver to…

#MeToo – Women Need To Stand Together

TRIGGER WARNING This article contains information about sexual assault which may be triggering to survivors. Donna Karen and Eddie Bernice Johnson have something in common. Well known? Sure. Women? Obviously. But as of late they have shown themselves to be enablers. Enablers to a behavior that goes against humanity and morality. To a behavior so despicable…

Promote Kindness – A Mother’s Story!

Unfortunately there have been too many articles exposing the experience of women, of moms that have been encountering judgement and criticism from.... OTHER MOMS! This is truly disappointing given that we live in a time where we have more access to one another and hence having a wonderful opportunity to becoming part of a large…

The Fear Factor

Take fear and still accomplish your dream.

Mourn Me and Move On

"My mother has been following me". If I leave that comment "as is", it allows you to fabricate your own assumption as to it's meaning. Is my mother a psycho sneaking about, hiding among the dark corners that parallel my life?  Is she shadowing my every move? Is she the quintessential hovering parent? Keep in mind, the following detail is…

Angry Women Are NOT Feminists!

FEMINISM! FUCK! Unfortunately, this word has become scary to many folks today. And I don't mean the word FUCK. Feminism is no longer a representation of the movement of days past. Although if you  look up the word in the dictionary, it will still claim to mean the advocacy of women's rights on the basis…

My Name is NOT Mommy!

A weekend conversation between myself and my seven year old son. A conversation every parent should have with their child. ********************************** Mom! Mama! Mommy! Mother! Ma! ENOUGH!!! Darling...my sweet little boy...I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to yell. But all day you've been asking me for stuff. Stuff that YOU want. Stuff that YOU like.…

Submissive Wife, Submissive Life

Picture a beautiful Saturday afternoon. My two youngest boys, seven and four, are sitting quietly in the living room watching Teen Titans Go after inhaling their PB&J's. I decide to use the moment to do some clean up in the front yard. Before stepping outside, I tell the seven-year old... "C...I'll be in the front…

“D” for Divorce – Scarlet Letter No More!

If at first you don't succeed, try, try, try again. If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. It's never too late. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. Never give in and never give up. Just a few uplifting quotes that totally did NOT help me when I was going through a divorce.…

Don’t Oppress the Oppressed

"I don't know what I don't know" and "there are things that I know that I don't know" take much humility to admit. Don't worry, my claim of humility is not a self-righteous declaration but a true personal daily effort. It's not easy to admit you don't know something for fear of looking uneducated on…

Back To School – You’ve Been Warned

Admit it...you hate homework as much if not more than your kids do.

No More Pets Please

I commence the following diatribe as a way to reach out to the many out there that may be feeling the same way, but are too afraid to speak up, too afraid to admit this out loud, too afraid of being judged. We live in a society that claims freedom of speech. The beauty of speaking…

At 58 Madonna Is Still My Material Girl

Have you ever experienced a moment that slapped you straight in to reality? A moment of self-awareness so sudden that you didn't realize you had even stopped breathing? A jaw-dropping run-of-the-mill fact that sent you in to momentary denial? I'm sure you have quite the story to tell and I would love to hear all…

I’m No Makeup Artist but I Do Know Art When I See It

I love the artistic world and Big O and I do our best to immerse ourselves and the kids in it. I love expressing myself through my writing and painting. Big O also writes and plays the violin and is now teaching himself the guitar (electrical guitar and it’s driving me crazy). The 18-year-old developed…

Is Doing Nothing a Good Use of Your Time?

Sometimes doing nothing is exactly what we should be doing

WTF! A Deeper Look

I bet you a weekend with all three of my kids that you already know what she’s referring to without even peeking at the link included below. If you guessed the Me-ternity debacle, then get ready because my kids are a handful.

Quit Claiming That Women Are Weak!

It was nine in the morning, a Monday, after a long weekend and it felt as if I didn't just have three days off. Even worse... I had cramps. If you're a woman, you'll most likely know the kind of cramp that not only sends sharp lingering pain into your lower abdomen, but resonates all the way…

A 40-Somethings “AHA!” Weekend Away

Many times we coast through life blinded to the lessons waiting at the end of each moment. Despite being slighted, they simmer there for as long as it takes us to collect them for later consumption. And it's a good thing, since allowing a lesson to shift our thoughts for personal growth is only possible…

Clean Slate or Closure…Choose Wisely!

This year has been quite an interesting one. My only post of any significance before this one was a quick overview on how 2015 "Hulked" in strong, kicking my ass. At that point I believed, erroneously it seems, that I had met the peak of that figurative roller-coaster and was coming down back to the platform…

SISTERHOOD OF THE WORLD BLOGGERS

These first three months of 2015 was a difficult one for my blogging, more like I lost my mojo, my inspiration, my desire to even open my brand new touch screen laptop, of which by the way I got an awesome deal for. Thankfully I'm back with happy mojo in tow. Last week I decided…

2015 Kicked My Ass

Its been practically 3 months since I've figuratively put pencil to paper. That wasnt my plan; so far from my original plan. So what happened to my so-called plan? I clearly remember December of 2014. At this very moment it seems like so long ago. I was in the middle of finishing up a hysterical post…

Kim Kardashian and Her Stupid Earrings

Standing in the shower, my eyes closed feeling the water hit my back, listening as the drops meet the porcelain floor, my mind starts to wander. A moment of tranquility is quickly overtaken by moments of chaos thinking about my eternal To Do list. I can't believe I have one kid starting his senior year in high school and…

Who Cares What Size Your Butt Is

Let me just say this...I'm Hispanic and I don't have a big butt. My boobs are not that much to write home about either. There...I said it. I almost feel like I have to belong to a support group. Why? Because my culture as in many others thrive on this look. And if you belong…

From Five Months To Eleven Years To…

I glanced and contemplated a man, you were young and prideful but caught my eye. I kept pulling my thoughts away,for you seemed less reliable and more of a wise guy.   You couldn't possibly be all that I dreamed of,all that I needed and all that I waited for.You insisted that you were the…

Clash of the Titans (when this couple butt-heads on practically everything)

For anyone that has had the privilege of watching this movie, either the original or the remake, (stay far away from the sequel “Wrath…”), you’ll recall that the male character, Perseus, exuded the muscle and strength to fight for the damsel in distress, Andromeda. He encountered witches, two-headed dogs, chopped off the head of Medusa…

The Game of Chicken in a Bathroom Stall

I’m not a daredevil by nature. I refused to ever take a dare from other kids when I was younger. I always opted for Truth when playing Truth or Dare. Only once did I fall prey to the peer pressure of the constant bantering to take the Dare on this game and ended up, red-faced,…

Me, Myself & I – All Guilty!

Daily Prompt asked:  What’s the one guilty pleasure you have that’s so good, you no longer feel guilty about it? Once I’m done Go watch some TV Play with your brother Why don’t you go read a book I think you need a nap Here’s some paper and glue, go make something If you don’t…

Knock That “Prince” Off His Horse

Shaking my head, practically causing whiplash, I listened in shock. What? She did what? For how long? How does that even happen? Who initiated that? Way too many questions I guess for the messenger. They gave me that “Don’t Shoot” kind of look. Putting up their hands in a protective stance against my machine gun…

Those Dandelions Set Me Straight!

Where I’m at and what I was doing there really doesn't matter. What matters is that I was sitting, feeling the warmth of the sun reflecting in from the window, not even paying attention to what’s going on outside. The view glimmered in the sun and caught the corner of my eye. I turn to…

I Don’t Care if she’s a Feminist! Don’t Forget to be a Gentleman!

True Story - I'm 26 years old, 8 months pregnant expecting my first child. I'm commuting back and forth to Manhattan via the A train from Queens. At this stage of my pregnancy I'm getting out of work just a tad earlier to avoid the evening rush back home. The August heat makes waiting on…

My IVF Challenge: Mostly Physical, Hardly Emotional!

Challenge can mean many things. As a verb, it can mean to confront something, face up to it. It can mean a dare, or to question. As a noun, it can mean a test, or experiment. Which of these can I relate to the most? ALL. I don’t pretend to know how other women have…

Déjà vu

Being a mom to a 16-year-old comes with certain perks. Stop pursing your lips, rolling your eyes or shaking your head in utter disagreement. I know you think I'm crazy. Just give me a moment to explain. Parenting a teen boy has its continuous challenges, sure, he was my "need to read every book and…

About Me

I'm not pretending to know it all. I'm not a psychologist,  therapist or life coach. It's just me. A married woman originally from the Bronx and transplanted to Central New Jersey, raising 3 boys and dealing with an angst ridden dog. A 40-something woman with baggage and issues, with both happy and sad moments. A…